Love-As I perceive it

Well..each time you meet an old friend after a long gap or made some new friends, after few casual hi s and hello s, the conversation somehow boils down to whether they have a bf/gf? I m sure most of us must have faced this question a umpteen number of times. Once you answer this , the next question inevitably seems do you love someone( even though they really mayn't know what love is :P). Love- What is love? The very word seems to send down a pleasant shrill through everyone’s heart. Some define it as a sense of passion; for some its a sensation; and yet some describe it as a spontaneous expression. Individuals vary, so do their feelings and hence the way they define love to be. Are you in love?Is that person the right one for you?These sort of questions intrigue old and young alike, the rich(spoilt brats) and the poors( nerds and geeks included) as well and these are the sort of things which help in the growth of various networking sites, astrologers(fake ones) and all sorts of damn things which advertise themselves banking on these human emotions...Well. some seem desperately pathetic as well... searching profiles and sending lots of requests knowing that most of them are sure to be rejected.(Don't know how they somehow get the idea/feeling that people might be seeking someone to love through the net /on sites:P) Ya, agreed, all seem to dream of spending some quality time with their loved ones;be with them -physically or atleast in dream(well..I have seen guys spending 12-15 hours on phone, their heads bent,eyes sleep-deprived and yet they don't want the other person( the 'jaan' or 'jaanu') to think he/she is now bored and don't want to talk now..As we grow up, the effect of movies seem quite visible on some.Seeing romantic flicks day after day, they get so hopelessly romantic that sometime life seems just another dream for them. They think of going on long drives, romantic candlelit dinners, walking hand in hand by the beach n seeing the sunset..(I am sure you would get plenty of examples where people fill in their choiciest date dreams on their personal profile:).But as most of you must have already guessed, very few are the lucky ones.
You see, every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you somehow get attracted(crush), then perhaps fall in love with your partner.You anticipate their calls, perhaps even want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. That time, it feels as if falling in love is so easy, not at all hard, a rather spontaneous experience. You didnt do anything. and maybe that's why its called 'falling in love'. You might often hear the expression "swept off my feet" as if like you weren't doing anything and suddenly sometime happened to you.Is love dat passive or spontaneous? But is the euphoria of love to stay forever? Nah, it fades. It’s a natural cycle of every relationship.With time, phone calls become a bother( don't you understand I'm busy? Why the heck you call so often?), touch is always NOT welcome (it’s a definite no-no; you may even be accused of harassing, so be beware!), and your partner’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts (earlier it was like-oh! I love when he’s crazy. It’s so cute! And now-God! I hate his craziness, it’s so annoying at times; I feel embarrassed). The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you tend to realize the dramatic differences between the initial stages of your love and now the duller or angry subsequent stages. At this point, you ponder over whether you are really with the right person or not? Is this really the same person you fell for, you were once crazy about? As you reflect upon the euphoria of love you once had, you begin to desire that experience with someone else and that’s where relationships break down.
A successful relationship is not about finding the perfect person (perfect is just an idealism like the ideal value we get after putting in various simplifying assumption, who themselves don't hold usually), its more about accepting a person with his imperfections intact, and sprouting the seeds of love perfectly.We often see relationships failing and partners blaming each other for their unhappiness.Instead of trying to douse the inside fire, they search outside to compensate their feelings, some sort of emotional unfulfillment.and most of them take the shape of extramaritial affairs-most notable among them being infidelity.Other than that,people try to get into all sorts of absurd things-some get workaholic, some alcoholic all trying to find something to cancel out their sense of losing something.Yet there are others who look at this as some sort of destiny/fate and try to move on, carry on their life(with few modifications). People tend to look out of relationships when the answer is itself in front of them. It’s possible that you may fall in love with someone else; I’m not denying that possibility. And perhaps you would feel better also, but TEMPORARILY. But you’d be in the same situation few years later. So the key is not going about searching your Mr. /miss perfects, rather trying to love the person you can, perfectly.
Sustaining love is not as passionate and spontaneous experience as falling in love, it requires hard work. You have to work day in and day out to maintain the same level of glue in it. And it takes time, effort and energy. Most importantly, it demands wisdom, knowing your compatibilities and being able to support. Mind it-Love isn’t a mystery. Relationships have rules, things that you can do and you can’t –just like the universal laws of gravity and all. If you play your cards right and according to the rules, results are mostly predictable. Love is therefore a ‘decision’-a matter of choice, not just a feeling.
Well, say destiny determines who walks into your life. It’s up to you who you let walk away, who you let stay and who you refuse to let go. Love is something we always try to discover all along. It is actually within us only, others being just the media to find it. Whether you hang on to the feeling of love and live it honestly, it’s up to you.So, I guess its better we stop trying to be desperate in our search for mr and miss perfects, learn to live yourself and people that you know, each day.Btw, I didn't say stop dreaming(world won't be as lovely and colourful if we do that)

Who is the real father of Pakistan- a retrospective analysis

“Few individuals significantly alter the course of history. Fewer still modify the world map. Hardly anyone can be credited with creating a nation. Md. Ali Jinnah did all the three”, wrote Jinnah’s biographer Stanley Wolpert, describing life of history’s one of the greatest statesman.

Although we all seem to credit (or rather say discredit) Jinnah for partitioning India and creating the state of Pakistan out of it, this may not be the truth. On a different and yet novel perspective, Nehru and not Jinnah is the real father of Pakistan. The man who is frequently blamed for breaking India was once known as the brand ambassador of Hindu-Muslim unity. In accepting the Cabinet Mission Plan, it can be argued that Jinnah tried to keep India united (although it favoured his vested interests too). The man, who scoffed at Muslims as a separate nation and mulishly insisted that all were Indians, was the man who, when push came to shove, gave India that one last push towards partition by rejecting the plan. It is true that if Pt. Nehru had accepted the Cabinet Mission Plan, India would have remained united.

Nehru most probably thought of Jinnah and his Muslims as headache and the only solution he thought of was to rather cut off the head. He didn’t like Jinnah, to put it mildly. He wanted him out so that he could rule India unchallenged. When Lord Mountbatten took Gandhi’s proposal to Nehru that Jinnah be made independent India’s first Prime Minister, he couldn’t accept the notion of subordination to Jinnah and remarked,” the old man has lost it all.” In a land where it takes long stretches in prison to cut one’s political teeth, there wasn’t any single arrest warrant against Jinnah. He fought and won all his battles on the intellectual plane. He spoke to the Muslim masses in English, an alien language they didn’t understand, and yet he galvanized them. In a way, Jinnah was incredible.

There are striking coincidences too- Jawaharlal broke the Indian Subcontinent into two. Twenty-four years later, his daughter divided it into three. Nehru was a competent leader who changed the course of history for good or for bad. He had electrifying and yet, double personality. There was the westernized Nehru; Harrow and Cambridge,’ Fabian –Socialist’ and there was the Hindu Nehru that always came to the fore during crunch times, using the argument of secularism to deny Muslims their separate identity, insisting all were Indians only and could be represented by Congress alone. Today, his secularism lies in tatters, proving Jinnah and his two-nation theory right.

Great soldier Mountbatten might have been, but a great leader he certainly wasn’t, just a mediocre dictator whom Nehru played like harp. Though Nehru had a chance, he preferred partition rather than having a superior Jinnah and the Muslim ‘headache’ as constant irritants.

बारिश की एहसास

हलकी सी रौशनी आए
झूमे यह हवाएं
पंशी गुनगुनाये
छाई है देखो कैसी काली यह घटाएं

भीनी-भीनी सी खुशबु लाये
कलिया मुस्कुराये,
बारिश के बूंदों के बीच
देखो कोयलिया मधुर संगीत सुनाएं

आँगन में नाचे मयूरी मगन
कही दूर,बाजे पायलिया छ्न-छ्न
लहरायें यह मृदु पवन
खुशी से झूमें आज मेरा भी मन

इंतज़ार क्यों?

This is one of my earliest hindi writes,most of which are lost now. written way back in 2007.

चन्द लम्हे,कुछ पल
न जाने कैसी मचा गयी हलचल
उसकी हर बातें,हर मुलाकातें
आज क्यों सताए मुझे हरपल !

टिप टिप बूंदे बारिश की
चेहरे पे रौशनी चंदा की
आज इतना क्यों भाये मुझे
शायद असर है मिलने का तुझे

जबसे खोया तेरी खयालो में
हुई चाय ठंडी न जाने कितनी प्यालो में
वोह हर एक धुन तेरी
लगती है मुझे आज भी प्यारी बड़ी

पर शायद
मेरे ख़त का आज तुझे इंतज़ार नहीं
मुझसे मिलनी की तुझमे कोई चाह नहीं
मेरे लव्स तुझे याद नहीं
देखे थे जो सपने साथ
शायद आज वोह हसीन नहीं

मेरा प्यार आज तेरा दिल नहीं बहलाती
मेरे ख्वाब,मेरी याद शायद तुझे नहीं सताती
सोचता हूँ कभी-आखिर इंतज़ार क्यों
जब बिन जवाब राह ही देखना है यू?

Wasted

Yesterday maybe I was wrong
Thinking you were for me,all along
Wasted time with you
When I could have played ping-pong

You didn't treat me nice
When hungry,offered me just plain rice
Thought,would get sweets and ice
And meat,couldn't even ask twice !

I thought,for me you did care
But,when I laid my heart bare
All I get is your angry stare
I swear,your red eyes did scare

I thought,you might change
With me,stop acting strange
Stop shouting that hard
Already deaf,surely gonna make me retard

When you left
You took a piece of me
As if everything mine is just free
Bargaining my heart shamelessly
Like you do when on a shopping spree !

I see you in my dream
Thank God, you can't scream !
You walk to me,I run from you
Even when you threw at me your shoe
We can't glue,I knew.

I'm Trying

You hear me? I'm trying
Just to have a glimpse of you
I'm dying
Every other rule I wanna be defying
That I love you,I'm not denying.

I hear you every night and day
Am I indifferent?nay you say
You are safe in my heart
You make it easy when life hits hard

Every night I rush to my bed
Hoping to see you before its too late
I feel you,I dream of you
Lost in a fairytale-the angel being you

Maybe the clouds seem to spry
Yet stars lit the night sky
Wanna feel the breeze and rain;and I
Will sing for you the perfect lullaby

Maybe I was a bit too lost
I never knew how hard it would cost
Guess I wasn't so right
Never meant to pick up a fight

I may say that I don't care
You may feel a rising flare
But, haven't you seen my heart bare?
A moment for me,can't you spare?

A sweet dream or a perfect nightmare
Either way,for you I do care
Wanna sail through the sea
To meet you
In a place as perfect as it can be

We'll sing, we'll dance
As if in a trance
Let music of breeze fill through your ear
Let me put a flower on your hair